Monday, February 22, 2010

"I could get married tomorrow if I just lowered my standards."

On Friday, I had my much anticipated second date with Charlie. I met up with Sugarloaf and his date at a local Thai restaurant. The food was delicious but the conversation lulled a couple of times with her. I know that I should like Charlie. She is pretty. However, every guy has different tastes and mine is just not that partial to her. She runs marathons. She is touchy feely. She really likes board games. We ended up at Sugarloaf's place playing an Olympic Wii game. Charlie wasn't very good at video games but at least she was willing to try. At the end of the date, I hugged her and said "see you soon."

Honestly, I am really trying to like Charlie. What I mean is that I am giving her more chances than I normally would. I want to like her. It would make life so much easier. Of course there would be difficulties with having an "instant" family but that is not what worries me. What worries me is that I am not gaga for her. I tried to explain this to Littlebrother yesterday at church. Suprisingly, Littlebrother was extremely critical of me. "What the HELL are you talking about?" was his response. I think this was because I used the word "love" instead of "gaga." But, if you have read this blog, you know that I wear my heart on my sleeve. Some of the girls I have really liked were not girls my friends found attractive at all. I can't explain it, sometimes I am attracted to a girl and sometimes I am not. Sometimes I feel a connection with a girl and sometimes I do not.

Once Littlebrother got mad at me, it just really pissed me off. Why should I have to explain to him whether I like a girl or not? I think I was a little mad at Littlebrother because he had a blind date on Saturday night over and I thought the girl was very pretty (but also very self centered and immature). I know that Littlebrother doesn't have any interest in her other than just a hook-up and that just pisses me off more. He has some really great options that I don't have and he chooses to just piss them away.

On Saturday, I met up with Pulse for a late breakfast. I decided that I am not really attracted to Pulse. But I am still drawn to her. Part of the problem with Pulse is that she has really blond hairs on her face. I know girls probably don't think that guys notice this type of thing, but let me tell you, WE DO! And once we have seen a girl with some facial hair, it's hard to get rid of that image. So even if the facial scruff is never seen again, well, you only get one chance to make a first impression. I think I will hang out with Pulse again but I am just vocalizing that I am not interested in her for a relationship. I am sure you are saying that instead of wasting my time with another friend that is a girl, I should be hanging out with potential relationship girls. But there aren't any.

On a side note, have you read the Mormon Bachelor Pad blog? There was a post today about a 27 year old mormon bachelor that was picking a fight with them. I found it hilarious. For as much crap as Calvin and Jake get, they sure seem to have a lot of followers and a lot of people wanting to comment on their posts. I was a bit annoyed with all the girls who commented saying "this guy is 27 and mormon and single so he obviously is a loser." It reminded me of a comment my ex girlfriend from law school once said. "I could get married tomorrow if I just lowered my standards a little." I guess the same could be said for all of us. What a wench she was.

9 comments:

  1. Being single beyond 25 is an art form. Its way harder than being married (or so I hear...). Doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, and anyone who says so hasn't ever been there. I wouldn't worry about it.

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  2. (not married so i can't say from experience per say) BUt i think that when you meet THE one you'll just know...you shouldn't have to try to like or even love someone. It should just come naturally. Not saying the feeling will come the first time you see that someone, but eventually you'll just....know.

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  3. I agree with Little. I don't think you should try to like someone. I wasn't trying to like Austin, but I wasn't looking for reasons to not like him either. I wasn't so quick to decide anything at all. I just went with it for a while and like LIttle said "not saying the feeling will come the first time you see that someone, but eventually you'll just...know."
    I've said it before, but I think that you analyze everything too much.

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  4. Don't settle, time will come. that is all I got

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  5. I'm just throwing this out there...we all know, including yourself, that you analyze things a bit early. But maybe the way you write the blog doesn't help. Every date you write about it includes a decision, "I liked, her, didn't like her, connection, not a connection," whatever...So I agree w/ the other comments (and comments on previous posts). We all love hearing abt the dates, but maybe try not deciding how you feel about it so soon?

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  6. I have missed your comments Alison. I figured you were mad at me about something and didn't want to talk to me anymore. I also didn't think you were reading my blog any more. That is definitely a good suggestion. I use this blog to try and be completely honest about how I feel after a date. Should I just refrain from writing how I feel?

    My hope is that I will someday end up in a relationship and the absolute beginnings of it will be well documented. Based on some of the comments above, I will write a blog post about when I thought that I just knew...

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  7. Its nice to know that you wouldn't reach out to me if you felt I was upset to try and patch things up.

    I wasn't saying that you should refrain from writing how you feel, but don't feel like you have to "decide" how you feel for our benefit.

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  8. I had the same thoughts reading the whole thing on MBP. I am almost 27 and not married too. I'm not single, but still-I'm not married! I didn't feel I was "too old" until I became Mormon though. Its hard not to imagine myself as "screwed" if things didn't work out for my fiance and I. At least you are a man though! ;-)

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  9. Definitely don't settle!!! Ever. So many people become more and more tolerant as they get older. They're willing to make accommodations for behaviors, traits, circumstances etc - and though I think this can be a great christ-like attitude - when it comes to love you should be using your experiences to help you become more - well - umm - PICKY!! You should learn what really isn't going to work for you and use that information to make sure that you are not wasting your time. Sure there may be some things you need to let go of ... but overall I think you should trust yourself. If you're just not that into someone - trust your instinct.

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