Saturday, February 6, 2010

But I miss screaming and fighting and kissing in the rain

Charlie is quite the talker. As we were sitting and eating dinner, I mentioned something about divorce and she started talking about how hard it was for her sister to be divorced. It was a strange answer so I dug a little deeper. I think all I asked was something like "so you are divorced right?" You know how you ask a question without realizing that you bit off more than you can chew? Like a few years ago when I was on a blind date that my brother in law set me up with. The conversation was lagging and so I thought I would fish a little. "How many boys have you kissed?" I asked. "I don't want to talk about it" was her reply. "Aww, come on, it's not a big deal" I fished a little more. "Well, OK, umm, a couple hundred..." Ok, not exactly the answer I was expecting. We talked about it for a minute and then, not knowing when to stop, I decided to fish a little more. "How many girls have you kissed?" I asked. "I don't want to talk about it" was her reply. Somehow, I ended up convincing this girl to tell me about several lesbian experiences that she'd had, while we were sitting in the car with my sister and brother in law. My sister's eyes went wide.

Such was the case with my date with Charlie. Her response was "Oh, I have never been married." Well, ok, thats cool. Perhaps we should leave it at that, right? No, I decided to ask for more details. Forty five minutes later, after having heard all the details of exactly how her daughter was conceived, I wondered if maybe I had learned my lesson.

Other than the rather interesting conversation topic, the date with Charlie was fun. She is intelligent and caring. Very physical when she talks with you (always putting her hand on my leg or my arm). In a lot of ways, dating Charlie would be very ideal in my life. For one, she comes from money and seems to be doing very well for herself. I certainly don't need someone with money. But, I thought that her and I could do very well together. Charlie is attractive but I am not that attracted to her. I mean, she is pretty enough that I would kiss her but I really wasn't that interested in kissing her after the first date. Still, the thing is, I have been on a lot of dates. I kinda know what it feels like to be very excited after a first date. I was not this way with Charlie. I was calm and ok. I think I will take her on a second date but there just isn't this huge excitement for me about it.

1 comment:

  1. You know I was talking about with someone about the warm and fuzzies... you really need them. If you don't feel them I suggest finding another girl....