Thursday, March 11, 2010

Third dates for everyone!

My date with BFD was pretty fun. I decided to hold her hand during the movie. Can I just say that watching a 3D movie is absolute awfulness. Please remind me in the future any time I think "I should watch a movie in 3D." My love of movies ends where 3D movies begin.

We grabbed dinner after the movie and had an interesting chat. The topic of kissing came up. BFD told me she was a lip slut. Then she told me that I should guess how many boys she had kissed. I guessed 74. I was way low. She said she has kissed approximately 290 different boys. 290!!! I laughed so hard. I was only off by about 220 in my guessing. There were a couple of awkward moments at dinner. Sometimes I just don't know what to talk about with BFD. The conversation doesn't always just flow. Some of the time I think she is just trying to be awkward but some of the time, I think she really is just awkward. Maybe so many guys have kissed her because the conversation got awkward and they decided they would get rid of the awkardness by kissing. I know I have done that in the past.

I asked BFD to go see a comedian with me for this Friday. It should be fun but if some of the awkwardness doesn't wear off, I am not sure how many dates I can go on with her. After dinner, we were walking and BFD kissed me on the cheek. Before my mission, I went out on a few dates with a girl we'll call Jonesy. I really liked Jonesy. After seeing a movie, I walked her to her door. She said how much fun she had and then kissed me on the cheek. I had made out with several girls before that but nothing compared to the euphoria I experienced from that kiss on the cheek. I drove home in a haze. I am not sure I could have passed a sobriety test because I was drunk from that kiss. Nothing ever happened with Jonesy. She made it almost impossible to go on another date until a few weeks before my mission, when she told me she just wasn't looking for a relationship.

BFD's kiss didn't send me into a state of Euphoria. I could have kissed BFD for sure but I didn't. I am not even sure I want to. Five years ago, I would have just made out with BFD and never called her again. But now, with everyone telling me to keep dating girls that I don't immediately click with, I am going on a third date with her. It just doesn't feel like progress.

Last night I randomly decided to call Charlie. Talk about another awkward conversation. Charlie is a total talker and yet our phone call felt like I was running uphill in the snow where your feet sink in with every step. I really don't feel like I have anything in common with Charlie. I tried so hard to find some common ground last night. Still, in my new resolution to step it up and go out with girls I don't like, I asked Charlie out for a third date. I am not particularly looking forward to it. So, Friday, third date with BFD. Saturday, third date with Charlie.

I talked to Pulse a bit yesterday. I have to admit that my interest in Pulse has waned a little more. I never felt super interested in her. I definitely like spending time with her but I am not at all driven to enter a relationship with her. It is yet to be determined when we will next hang out. I chatted with FormerLesbian the other day. She seemed pretty down on herself. I felt really bad. I think she really just needs some good friends. We agreed to watch a movie sometime and eat girl scout cookies.

11 comments:

  1. wow. almost 300 boys? i wrote about my "number" a few months ago: http://singlemormonchick.blogspot.com/2009/10/whats-your-number.html
    i was embarrassed then, but i think i am even more now. not that i think kissing over 200 guys is "cool", but...

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  2. Dear singlemormonchick:

    I read your post. 12? I guess that makes me kind of a lip slut. I think I have kissed around 53 girls. I used to keep track but stopped a few years ago and now have to just estimate. I wouldn't be embarrassed by the number 12. I mean, you were married. A lot of the 53 girls that I have kissed were not girls I should have kissed or would kiss today if given the opportunity. Thanks for reading and especially thanks for commenting. Comments make me believe that people are reading my blog and not just accidentally clicking on it and quickly hitting the back button.

    Love Tripp

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  3. I think people shouldn't count kisses. Sure when it's lower you know what it is if you contemplate....

    But I feel once you can't count on your fingers... you should just estimate....

    The End

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  4. I feel kind of exhausted after reading this! You don't see really into it, but awfully busy. Busy work. Have you tried...not dating for awhile? Maybe all the action/potential action has a desensitizing effect. I am still catching up on your blog, so I may be totally off on this ;-)

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  5. Why would you ever make a resolution "to step it up and go out with girls [you] don't like"? That's crazy! You marry the girls you date. Unless your goal is to give girls more than one chance. First dates can be pretty awkward.

    Also, if you do decide to kiss this BFD girl, make sure that you get inoculated beforehand.

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  6. Dear Waiting in the Wilderness:

    I have tried not dating. I got really depressed really fast because I felt like I had just given up. I was a nightmare for my roommates to live with during that time. I definitely agree with your comments though, it is a bit exhausting; especially when I am just not that into it. I just don't think I can deal with the unhappiness of "not dating for awhile."

    Love Tripp

    Dear Anonymous:

    Ugh, I know. My family and all of my friends have said that love is something that is built over time. We all know that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results. So, I decided to try out people's suggestions. After all, maybe I really will fall in love with one of these girls over time. Thus far, it hasn't really worked. How many dates should I go on with a girl before I decide that it just isn't working? As to the inoculation, I haven't really had any shots for awhile. Is there an inoculation for mono or other kissing diseases?

    Love Tripp

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  7. Tripp, I have never heard/read about someone trying so hard, you are being quite giving, third dates for everyone! ha that title made me laugh. I hope all your efforts are rewarded by finding your dream women.

    On a separate note, I personally feel that when you kiss someone, or they kiss you (even just on the cheek) that there should be some sort of spark or in your words "euphoria" but what do I know? My number is at 4 (embarrassing I know) and to be honest i wish I could take some of those back...

    Best of luck with your next round of dates! I hope that the women earn tickets to the next round!

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  8. Dear DCFresh:

    Thanks so much for commenting. I have to confess, it gives me great joy to receive any comments at all. Maybe I am like that guy in the Offspring song "Pretty fly for a white guy" who "friends say he's trying too hard and he's not quite hip, but in his own mind, he's the dopest Tripp!"

    Love Tripp

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  9. I have no idea what my number is - but WOW - how young are these people with only 4 or 12 kisses? And seriously - shouldn't one be embarrassed for COUNTING that they have over triple digits worth of kisses? In what world is it that we should use the number of people we've kissed as a form of validation? Why count? I think that people who are really confident in themselves do not need to keep track their kissing number. I mean - sure - if every kiss was memorable that's AWESOME! but 290? Oh well - we all have different lives and different comfort levels. :)

    I think it might be (and I use might loosely - it also might NOT be) but yeah - it MIGHT be slightly better if she counted how many HOT boys she could have kissed but chose not to - at least then we'd know she had some self restraint.

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  10. Dear Daisy:

    I agree. I thought it was weird that she told me it was 290, especially since she brought it up. I think that counting is about as useless as dictating to a donkey (I made that up specifically for this comment to your comment - nice eh?). Even if every kiss was memorable, they are in the past. Anyway, I think BFD has a huge ego and she acts somewhat entitled.

    Are you still in Australia? How come you don't blog more?

    Love Tripp

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