Friday night I went with Chief to play video games with this girl Gamer and her friend. Chief and I picked up pizza on the way over. Gamer is a very different girl. She plays lots of video games. For some reason, I am very attracted to her though. Maybe it's just because she seems so relaxed compared to other girls. Like she isn't trying to be anything other than herself. Gamer has a yappy little dog that seriously drove me bonkers though. We played Super Mario Brothers on her Wii until like 1:30 in the morning. It was a lot of fun.
On Saturday, I had a date with BFD. I was supposed to go to a wedding reception before the date but I hurt my back really bad and had to lay down for a bit. I woke up 10 minutes late to my date and impossibly late to the wedding reception. I think I showed up at BFD's place 30 minutes late. We met up with BFD's roommate Script and this guy she is kinda dating. After dinner, we decided to rent a movie. The guy Script was on a date with chose this movie Black Dynamite. I kissed BFD a couple of times and then headed home.
On Sunday, BFD texted me asking me to come over and hang out. I was bored since all of my roommates have basically abandoned me so I headed over. We watched slumdog millionaire. I think BFD honestly likes me but it feels so contrived. Like that maybe BFD just likes the idea of me. Script was saying how she wanted a guy that had such and such qualities and I realized that she was kinda naming off all the qualities that I had. Not trying to build up my ego or anything. I just wondered if maybe BFD was feeling pressure from her friends to settle down with a guy and if maybe the qualities her friends wanted had influenced the qualities that BFD wanted. Do you think maybe I am purposefully not falling for BFD because she represents all the girls that I have wanted to date in the past who wanted guys other than me?
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5 years ago
So are you going to continue to date BFD? I am kinda confused, you're interested but aren't falling for her?
ReplyDeleteDear DCFresh:
ReplyDeleteI am confused too. My dating life has never made much sense, to me or anyone else. I like spending time with BFD. I haven't absolutely made up my mind about her. But, I am not falling for her head-over-heels like I have fallen for other girls in the past. I want to fall in love with someone. But it's also nice to have someone to go do stuff with. Confusing? Yeah, I know.
Love Tripp
Ok so maybe I missed this somewhere along the way...but why not date a girl? I mean, just a regular girl, not necessarily a mormon girl. I mean, I've heard that non-mormon girls can be pretty fun too.
ReplyDeleteDear Andrea:
ReplyDeleteThere are a couple of reasons why dating a non-mormon girl is hard.
1. Alcohol - not all non mormon girls drink but most seem to. If you don't drink, you just sort of don't fit in with people who do. I have plenty of friend who drink and they are fun good people but a relationship with a girl that drinks presents serious problems.
2. Parents - I don't do everything my parents say but they definitely have an influence on me. Why? Cause my parents are a big part of my life. They are very much opposed to my dating a non-mormon girl.
3. Lifestyle - Drinking would probably be part of this category but this is much larger. Things not like not wanting to have sex before marriage are hard enough when both of you are on the same page and nearly impossible when you are on different pages.
4. Meeting girls - I really don't meet that many non-mormon girls. I met Jasmine at a bar last summer but if you read about her, she was just a weirdo. In general, I don't do so well meeting girls at bars. They are drinking and I am not.
5. The Future - I have had friends marry non-mormon girls and interfaith relationships are hard, particularly when one of the two is a mormon. The mormon faith just doesnt jive well with non-mormons in marriage. There are so many issues there. I want to get married eventually (hopefully sooner rather than later but whatever is in the cards) and the girls I date are probably the girls I marry. Five years ago, when I was just dating for fun, non-mormon girls were totally acceptable.
Non-mormon girls can be tons of fun. I dated a girl Britni many years ago and we had tons of fun together. I still miss her sometimes. If I met a non-mormon girl that seemed to just work with my personality, I wouldn't be opposed to dating her.
Love Tripp
Dear Tripp,
ReplyDeleteWay to answer Andrea ;)
Dear Liz:
ReplyDeleteThanks.
Love Tripp
Love at first sight doesn't exist so you should keep going out with her.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the newton. Love is a process and a verb, it is not a noun. You must love to be loved. It is a process, getting close doesn't happen over night. Feelings don't grow over night. Be patient, date other girls, but don't throw her under the bus just yet. Yeah I connected with my girl fast, but I have stronger feeling for her now than I ever have. It has taken 3 months to get to that point.
ReplyDeleteBe patient, nothing is perfect, nothing is magical... not intending to insult Tripp but you have a notion of a story book romance. There is a reason why they are in story books. They really don't exist. Love is a process - RESPECT THE PROCESS... just like Utah's Football motto (Respect the Process) meaning you have to work out and life hard everyday, you have to practice with high intensity, you have to take the little steps everyday to get to the top and win a championship. This principle rings true with love. take baby steps everyday you can't just leap to the top. The only way to eat a whale is one step at a time.
Just relax be patient and go out with her out will develop feelings as you get closer.
Dear The Newton's:
ReplyDeleteLike at first site does exist. I have "just known" early on with several girls that I really liked them. This isn't love at first site but I always compare how I feel with a girl at first to how I felt with those girls at first. I am not comparing my life to something unreal. I am comparing my present life to the feelings I had in the past. I don't think that is unrealistic to do.
Love Tripp
Dear mgreen62:
ReplyDeleteWouldn't the only way to eat a whale be "one bite at a time"? Just saying. I understand the process and I am not expecting some storybook romance right off the bat. But the first time you told me about your girlfriend (long before you guys were boyfriend/girlfriend) it was obvious that you really liked her. I am not looking to suddenly fall in love but I do expect to suddenly fall into like. Maybe I do have a sense of storybook romance but like Daisy said in a previous comment, she wants her husband to fall head over heels for her. I want to fall head over heels for a girl.
Love Tripp
I've gotta say while I don't believe in this love at first sight thing, if there is no chemistry or initial spark it won't cut it, at least in my experience. I get really frustrated with all the people in my life who told me to make checklists of everything I always wanted in a husband, only to find that a guy could have ever single quality on paper and not be the guy I want to be with forever. If you aren't into BFD, then don't make it linger, and definitely stop kissing her.
ReplyDeleteI had an interest but nothing like the feeling I have now.
ReplyDeleteYeah I wrote that wrong. Yes I like Ang but I didn't start "loving" her for weeks into it.
ReplyDeleteMaybe you should stop comparing every date to past relationships. You may have felt great, but something about those relationships didn't work. I think if you keep comparing you will never get anywhere. Every person is different and so are relationships!
ReplyDeleteYou missed a totally rad wedding reception with some seriously good cake.
ReplyDeleteDear Holly:
ReplyDeleteI felt so bad that I missed your wedding reception. I wanted to come, I really did. Was the cake really that good? I have a hard time trusting wedding cake...
Love Tripp
Don't worry about it; I'm sorry about your back. I hope it's feeling better.
ReplyDeleteAnd the cake really was that good. Of course, I love wedding cake.
i think that when people take time to fall in love, they end up settling. for me, its always been there or it hasn't. you may not know that you love the person right away, but once you realize that you do, you should also realize that you've always felt that way.
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