Beneficial Use Of Casters
5 years ago
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Dissatisfied
Last night House came over and we watched Band of Brothers. It was fun. We had a great talk about a bunch of different subjects (skydiving, weeding, video games, dogs painted to look like tigers, WWII). The conversation is always great with House. We just click. Ten seconds ago, I sent a text to Gamer telling her that I just don't feel right about dating her. Before you judge me too harshly, let me tell you that I seriously considered just not having any more communication with her. She hasnt texted me since Saturday and I haven't texted her. I already feel bad but there is nothing that can be done about it now. Right this minute, I don't like myself very much at all.
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sigh. come on, you KNEW that wasnt the right way to handle it. why did you roll like that?
ReplyDeletehas she text'd you back yet?
Dear singlemormonchick:
ReplyDeleteYeah, I knew it wasn't the right way to handle it. I basically narrowed it down to two options. Option 1 was to do nothing and never initiate any contact with Gamer again. Option 2 was to send her a text. Out of those two options, I think I chose the right one. I should have had more options. No matter what I did, I knew I was going to look and feel like an ass. It sucked. She texted me back saying "What the hell? I got the hint a long time ago at least u could have told me face to face instaed i get the news in tx. Thanks for using me"
I thought about replying but decided there was no possible gain from any further contact. Gamer hates me now and thinks I used her. I just didn't know how else to handle it. Maybe I am a bad person.
Love Tripp
Tripp you're not a bad person, you were in tough spot and anyone who thinks that they could've handled it "perfectly" is lying.
ReplyDeleteWow. That is some response from Gamer. I can understand her though. It sucks it went this way but that was just how the cookie crumbled...
i dont think you are a bad person, but based on your history with gamer, it definitely should have been face to face-no matter how uncomfortable it made you.
ReplyDeletei just saw a seinfeld rerun about this-when elaine is trying to break up with the old man-jerry tells her she has to do it in person since they had been on 7 dated and had sex. he got in a bad accident before she could break up with him and the hilarity ensues from there.
i practice what i preach-reluctantly, but what i find is that i avoid the situation where i would have to make the decision to break up in person or over the phone.
stop dating so casually and so often. with one girl, i mean. if you know things arent jiving by the 3rd date, stop calling, texting, and dating. you owe her nothing and she wont be too butt hurt over it because it was just 2 or 3 dates.
i know i am not the boss of you. just saying.
Dear DCFresh:
ReplyDeleteThanks for the kind words.
Love Tripp
Dear singlemormonchick:
ReplyDeleteI am not sure if I saw that episode of Seinfeld. Maybe it would have helped me better prepare for this situation. But probably not. I chose the cowardly way out and right now I feel like a coward. I am so sick of dating. Yesterday, as I was weeding around my house (to take out my frustration) I seriously considered a moratorium on all dating. I was supposed to go to a party with FarFarAway but instead I weeded and then played video games.
Love Tripp
Weeding is excellent therapy. Clicking is important.
ReplyDeleteit wouldnt have helped-she breaks up with the old man while feeding him navy bean soup as he is slouched over in his wheel chair, unable to talk.
ReplyDeletei have been on a dating hiatus since the first of the year. its a good thing. thinking about getting back out there, but just saying "i am not dating until further notice" takes the pressure off. i say try it. doesnt have to be six months like me. just take the summer off or something. blog about weeding. :) i would still read your blog.
Dear little sister:
ReplyDeleteAre you my little sister?
Love Tripp
Dear singlemormonchick:
ReplyDeleteThe last time I went on a dating hiatus, it was a disaster. My roommates found me always in a bad mood. And since I am the landlord, I had the ability to make their lives a lot worse. It just wasn't good. But I didn't go on a single date this last weekend. That is a plus, right?
I am not sure if any other people would read my blog if it were about weeding. But thanks for your support.
Love Tripp
Yes I am your little sister. I don't think you should make such an effort to not date. If there isn't someone you are interested in then don't go out, but if you do find someone interesting you should definitely take them out. That would be foolish to not just because of your dating hiatus.
ReplyDeleteyour little sister might have a point. if not dating makes you cranky and otherwise a
ReplyDeletemiserable person to be around then date someone you are truly interested in. stop with all these girls that you dont seem to really like or respect. maybe its time for some spring cleaning. take a trip and come take me out-i promise no lip gloss. :)
its worth mentioning that if i met anyone during my dating hiatus who i was truly interested in, i would go out with him. its not like a covenant i made or anything. i am just not "out there" trying to date.