Older girls versus younger girls

On Friday night, Cowboy and I did some volunteer stuff for the American Cancer Society. Just in case anyone was wondering, I am against it (cancer, that is). There were about 5 guys and 7 girls there. It actually was extremely conducive to meeting people. I had a good conversation with a girl that had gone to two years of law school and then dropped out and another conversation with a girl that had "Faith" tattooed on her wrist but was embarrassed about it. These girls were a bit older (probably their early to mid 30s) but they were super chill. I think all of them were Mormon but they weren't crazy Mormon. I think being Mormon is kinda like being a parent. Your first kid is way overprotected. You have tons of rules set up for them and if they don't follow the rules to a T, then they get punished. At least this was how my parents raised us. However, over time, you seem to chill out a little. My parents stopped freaking out if one of their kids was a few minutes late past curfew. And the curfew was moved from midnight to 1 or even 2. Of course, there are downsides to this. Littlelittlebrother speaks to/about my parents in ways that would have never been acceptable when I was his age. I think this is more because of his personality than because of my parents' more relaxed parenting style. Anyway, so people who have been Mormon a while can sometimes get that it isn't easy and they don't come off quite as judgmental early on. Thats how I felt with these girls. It was really fun.

On Saturday, BFF and I went to a theme park with BFF's cousin and her cousin's husband. There were tons of early teenagers walking around in love. How come it is so much easier for them to find love at that age than it is for me at this age? Most of the guys just look like total freaks. They have piercings in their faces. They are wearing girl's pants. And yet they have a fairly attractive girlfriend. Do the girls just have lower standards at that age?

If you want a revolution, the only solution evolve

On Friday, UpsideDown messaged me to let me know that she couldn't go out with me. It wasn't a huge surprise for me. I texted Gamer and asked if she wanted to go to littlelittlebrother's soccer game. She said it sounded like fun and would meet me at my house. The game was heartbreaking. Littlelittlebrother played really well but his team lost in double overtime. Rather than wait around while my entire family asked Gamer questions, we took off and got tickets to the new Ironman 2 movie. The movie wasn't all that great but it wasn't awful. Neither of us particularly loved it. Then we went back to my house and talked on the couch for a bit. I could tell that Gamer wanted me to kiss her. To be honest, I wasn't really sure if I wanted to kiss her though. So I hugged her and sent her on her way.

On Saturday, I had a date planned with Simpson. As I was pulling out of my driveway to go pick her up, I decided to pick 4 pink tulips from my front yard to give to her. I don't know much about flowers. For some reason, they just grow around my house. I guess they must be bulbs planted. Anyway, I think it definitely earned me some brownie points with Simpson when I showed up at her house holding a bouquet of freshly handpicked flowers. We went to dinner at my favorite Indian restaurant and then watched a movie back at my house. After the movie, it felt pretty natural to just move in and make out with Simpson. After all, a year ago I made out with Simpson several times. It was a pretty good make out. There are definitely a lot of qualities about Simpson that I like.

On Sunday, after a mothers day dinner with my family, I headed over to Gamer's to watch a movie. We cuddled during the movie but things definitely don't feel as natural with Gamer as they do with Simpson. Nevertheless, I ended up making out with Gamer. It was a much more awkward make out. For one, I think Gamer's couch kinda smells like urine (from her yappy dog, no doubt; or because it is a really old couch). Also, I think Simpson is way more experienced at the whole thing than Gamer (for better or for worse). Overall, a successful weekend.

Awkward dates with girls from Estonia

On Friday, I had my date with Katarina. I was worried cause before the play, there was a 2 hour planned. It ended up being pretty fun (the dinner). All these swanky people and an open bar. Of course, I don't drink, but I did have a coke from the bar. I was fun and funny. With it and witty. After the dinner, we walked over to the play. It was not one of my favorite plays. I was kinda tired and kept yawning. Katarina was about as awkward as you could expect for someone from a completely different culture on a date. I think she is a good person but I am never going to be interested in her. I kinda feel bad about it.

On Saturday, I had a date with this girl Simpson. I went out on a few dates with Simpson over a year ago. I actually met Simpson at the same party as Ariel. Ariel had a boyfriend and Simpson went out on a few dates with TheCaptain. Somehow, Simpson and I ended up going on a few dates. But it wasn't meant to be. I liked Ariel at the time and one night, Simpson and I were making out. She mentioned something about how Ariel had broken up with her boyfriend that day. Somehow I decided that I wanted to date Ariel more than I wanted to date Simpson. I can't really remember any other reason for me to stop dating Simpson.

Last week, Simpson just randomly said something to me on the facebook and we set up the date. I was a little late cause I was at a soccer game for littlelittlebrother. My friend Punk invited me to go see a jazz band she manages at a local club. Simpson and I had a lot of fun just talking and listening to the band. We went back to Simpson's place and watched The Lovely Bones. It wasn't very good. We cuddled a bit. To be honest, I couldn't remember why I stopped dating Simpson last year. She was fun.

On Sunday, I received a text from Spinster. She said she wasn't interested in me. It kinda pissed me off. I guess I can't be too upset because I certainly didn't feel any interest in Katarina. Anyway, so there won't be any more dates with Spinster. Tonight I was chatting with Gamer on the facebook. Even though she is awkward and kinda nerdy, I find myself wanting to spend more time with her.

Top 10 things that annoy me about dating

Since I haven't had any dates yet this week, and haven't really spent any time searching for prospects, I thought I would do a post on some of the things that really annoy me about dating.

Number 10: Girls putting lip gloss on. Ok, I get that they want to look pretty and they feel like it draws attention to their lips. I also get that maybe some girls feel a little self conscious without something on their lips. I also understand that some guys really like a girl with lip gloss or whatever on her lips. Still, putting it on while our dinner order is coming? Or while I am still eating? Littlebrother had a girl over the other night to make out. As she was getting ready to leave, she immediately put on lip gloss. I don't get it. For what? She was going to get into her car and drive home and get into bed. Nobody was going to see her. I was on a date with a girl that put it on right before a movie in the theater started. It's dark in there, I am not looking at her, nobody is looking at her, and she will probably lick it all off during the two hours of the movie. It just doesn't make sense to me.

Number 9: Girls putting on chapstick multiple times during a date. I understand that your lips are dry. Sometimes my lips get dry too. It's usually a sign that I am not drinking enough water or eating too much salty snacks. One time I was on a date with a girl who applied chapstick over 30 times. If your lips really are that dry, you probably need more than medicated lip balm. You probably should see a doctor. I know we all have annoying little habits. I bite my nails. I understand it's gross and I make sure I don't do it on a date. How about girls trying a little harder here? And the problem isn't just girls. Some guys I know (such as littlelittlebrother) have to put on chapstick with such frequency that it makes me wonder what is wrong with them.

Number 8: People who text while on a date. If it's something serious like your sister might be going into labor then let me know at the beginning of the date. Otherwise, until you know each other well, it just isn't a good idea.

Number 7: Girls who flirt with the waiter. Come on, I'm sitting right here!

Number 6: Talking about other dates while on the date.

Number 5: Criticizing me for the activity planned on the date. You expect me to plan something, I expect you to have fun doing it. Unless we are doing something really weird, you are probably supposed to just smile and do the activity.

Number 4: Texts after the date that say "I had a lot of fun tonight." It doesn't really tell me anything about how you feel. I have a lot of fun at family reunions. I know you probably had fun cause I was there, I saw it. I am not interested in whether you had fun. I know you have already made up your mind about me, I would just like a clue about what that decision was.

Number 3: A lack of compliments. If I look good or chose a nice restaurant, let me know. If you are having fun, say something. Sincere compliments are not used enough.

Number 2: Girls not waiting for the guy to get the door. It's one of the few chances for chivalry left for us as guys. Don't take it away from us. Let us open BOTH doors for you to get into the restaurant, not just the first one into the lobby.

Number 1: Not asking me questions. A good dater is very interested in the person they are on a date with. A typical first date includes lots of dialogue. If an overwhelming portion of the dialogue is about you, it is your fault. Getting to know a person involves asking them questions. If a guy is asking the girl a lot of questions on the date, it's cause he wants to get to know her. If she only provides one or two word answers, the guy is going to struggle and the date is not going to go well. In those cases, it is COMPLETELY the girl's fault. If you have already made up your mind that they aren't attractive enough, the date should probably already be over. Until then, give yourself and your date a chance. Listen to what they have to say and ask questions.